Why If Your Too Nice A Guy You Won't Get Dream Girl

"Why do nice guys finish last? Why aren't women attracted to us like they are to the bad boys?" Let me cut to the chase and try to help my "kinder, gentler" brethren. To begin with, nice guys divulge too much information far too quickly. They tend to convince themselves that if they don't reveal every single positive quality they possess, they will lose any chance of success with their love interest, when, in reality, the opposite is often true. Smother a woman and she is gone. Leave no mystery and she is gone. Explain, in vivid detail, why every single one of your past relationships has failed and yup, you guessed it, she is gone! Nice guys appear too needy and desperate through their words and actions. They try to take care of a woman's every want, need and desire before that women even knows what they are herself. Nice guys live a very predictable (and somewhat boring) lifestyle and leave very little mystery for women as their life is an "open book." Women view this as a lack of "excitement" in these men's lives and shy away immediately and instinctively. Nice guys tend to place women on a pedestal and give them the impression, "Go ahead and date every other guy on the planet, because when you finally come to your senses I will be right here waiting for you like a welcome mat next to your door." Nice guys turn themselves into a woman's "friend" by spending too much time with her when she wants or needs to "hang out and be with someone" rather than be alone. As human beings, we are rarely attracted or drawn to our "friends" in a romantic or passionate way. Nice guys use the words, "I love you" much too quickly and sometimes inappropriately - such as on a first date. For women, it comes down to a simple premise, if a guy seems too good to be true, he probably is and by the way, if he is THIS amazing, why isn't he taken? Why is he available? In trying to be everything to a woman, men end up projecting a lack of confidence, self-respect, self-esteem. They need to learn that they will not find the right person until they become the right person. Women tend to want what they cannot have, which is why "bad boys" are so intoxicating to them. Bad boys often live a very dangerous, aloof and mysterious lifestyle and rarely place women as a top priority in their lives. Women find themselves competing to be THE ONE to "break the wild horse" and reach a man who up until now has been unreachable by and unavailable to all other women. Bad boys divulge precious little information about themselves and make others, especially women, work extremely hard for any information they dredge up or time they "get" to spend in their presence. Bad boys appear to have "all that they want or need" and thus are never aggressively pursing anyone or anything. They don't need to. What they want or need usually comes looking for them. In fact, the farther away a bad boy runs, the faster women run after them. Womes exclaim, "He just doesn't know that he needs me and that I am the greatest thing that would ever happen to his life," or perhaps "He needs me...he needs someone." What bad boys do have, they feel they deserve, almost as a birthright. They give women the impression, "You are going to have to fight hard for me and put up with a lot of crap and even if you do, I still may not want you in the end." Bad boys may have several attractive, successful, driven women vying for their affection, whereas nice guys seldom receive this same type of attention. Why? Women know they can always return to the nice guy...he will still be there waiting for them after they have exhausted all their options chasing the guys they are not sure they can have. Confidence is so sexy and bad boys exude a calm, cool demeanor that says, "With or without you, I am satisfied with who I am and what I have. I don't need anything or anyone else...ever." The gauntlet has been thrown down! Ultimately, women know they have time to chase the bad boys because the nice guys who adore them aren't going anywhere. They know they can always come back, return that man's affection, and win him over... instantly and again, nothing turns them off more. Nice guys, if women see that you have a complete and exciting and fulfilling life without them, they just might want one with you. I am not suggesting that nice guys become jerks or treat women with disrespect, I am simply offering that after initially letting a woman know of your interest in her, you need to back off and GIVE HER A CHANCE TO MISS YOU! Nice guys are so desperately afraid that if they are out of a woman's presence, they are also out of her mind. Again, in reality, the opposite is almost always true. Try it... or are you just too nice? She may lack the confidence necessary to enter into a more "full time" relationship. She may lack experience or have experienced repeated relationship failure and be hesitant to enter into another one.